It is important to remember that
THE PROBLEM IS THE PROBLEM
THE PERSON IS NOT THE PROBLEM
With this in mind it is possible to explore how the problem is affecting lives and empower a person to combat or take action to combat the problem.
Problems can be rated on a 1 to 10 scale. One the problem is having minimal affect, 10 the problem is having an extreme affect.
When a problem gets us stuck up near a 10 we sometimes need help to explore how to manage it. Counselling is one form of help. It is not about the counsellor fixing the problem. It is about the counsellor helping explore the problem’s affects and possible ways of dealing to the problem, enabling a person to discover they have choices, possibly have managed this type of problem already and can take action.
PROBLEMS get us to think, act and communicate in ways that are not always helpful to us. We can take back control over how we think, act and communicate and make changes to eradicate problems.
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Reactions to difficulties and life events create emotional responses. Positive emotional responses are fantastic and have us feeling great. Not so good emotional responses need to be noticed. Those emotions are sending us a message that we need to take notice of.
The message is
SOMETHING NEEDS TO CHANGE!!
We need to change either
How we think
How we act
How we communicate
There are only TWO things we seek in our lives
1. To Have Pleasure
2. To Avoid Pain